Are you the nice girl?

Mar 9

Let me be frank, maintaining your niceness is the path to dis-ease.

Niceness requires the repression of emotions, opinions, perceptions, and experiences. Pair it with childhood trauma, a normal American chemical laden life, and a trigger like mold and your looking at a perfect set up for hormonal disruption, autoimmunity, cancer and more.

Our society loves nice people, because they don’t rock the boat. They chameleon and mesh and merge with whomever they are around. If you’re nice, life is simple. Everyone likes you. It feels really good to be nice.

I get it. I was a nice girl. If you ask anyone from my past to describe me, I can guarantee that the word nice would come up. As a result, I found myself on the path to dis-ease with no concept of the daily actions I took to contribute to it. I worked diligently, consciously and subconsciously, to be the mature, the polite, the kind, the thoughtful, the loving, the giving, the selfless, the peacemaking one. I thought this was what it was all about. My actions and words were affirmed time and time again by those around me, praising me for sacrificing and raving about how safe they felt with me. Most adults called me their favorite. Well… of course I was, bc I literally ignored and abandoned myself to become their ideal human. I bent over backwards to be just what they wanted. I so desperately longed to be accepted. By the way, while in the trenches, I would have never seen or described my actions as desperate or unhealthy.

I thought I was living out a God-approved life, full of love and goodness, selflessness and kindness. I had no idea that I could actually embody these without simultaneously losing myself. I did not understand that niceness was never God’s plan. I did not know that my religious culture had elaborated on God’s true intentions to create a world they liked.

It’s taken almost 34 years to arrive here, to see niceness for what it truly is, but even now I’m still working to release my nice girl tendencies. I’m not gonna lie, it’s really really hard. I’m constantly opening the door to rejection – the core response I had worked so hard to protect myself from for all those years. I’m awkwardly holding on to my authentic nature as the world around me continually pulls and prods me to let go. I’m learning resiliency in communicating honesty and boundaries. I’m wobbly walking forward each day, tripping and bumping my way through, but I’m doing it. I’m releasing the life that led me to dis-ease and as a result I’m watching my body self-heal.

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